Dealing with a Difficult Supervisor
No one is perfect, and everyone is entitled to a bad day now and then. But if you have a difficult boss, you may feel like you have to walk on eggshells every day to prevent problems. The tension of waiting for something to go wrong can sap your belief in your own abilities — and combined with the symptoms of your mental illness, it can make every workday feel like a waking nightmare.
Wondering how to deal with a particularly difficult supervisor? Here are some suggestions:
- Meet with a job coach, who can help you determine whether your work style, communication skills, etc. are contributing to the problem, and work with you to improve matters. Arrange to meet with your supervisor several times to find out what s/he expects and needs from you, and talk about how you can meet those expectations and needs. Keep a detailed written record of any problematic interactions. When did it happen? Where were you at the time? What did your boss say to you? How did you respond? What happened next? Don’t blow up, slink away, or whatever else you instinctively do when people are angry at you. Losing control makes you look bad, and walking away makes you look like you’re challenging your supervisor’s authority. If you’re cursed at, threatened, physically or sexually harassed, or otherwise being treated abusively, take your written record of the event to both your company’s personnel department and your boss’s manager.
- If you think your treatment is due to your psychiatric disability, consider filing a complaint under the ADA.
Note: The information contained in these pages is for educational purposes only, and is not legal advice. Individuals should contact the appropriate legal resources for specific legal advice regarding their particular situations.