What if my family and I disagree about my work goals?
Agreement about a direction can be difficult. Some families may be worried that work will be difficult or bring on more symptoms. They may want to protect you from disappointment. Or they may be concerned about what things will look like once you are less available and doing more on your own. It may or may not be important to be “on the same page” as your family, but if it is, there are a few possibilities below.
To help your family come on board, you may want to talk with them more in detail about the work you have done to arrive at your work goal. Show them how you thought about what you want, and where your preferences come from, such as past experiences with work and school. You might want to talk about the research you’ve done into options and why you believe that the option you’ve chosen is the best one. Talk with them about their willingness to support you as you try out work, which will give you more experience, knowledge, connections, and skills. Invite family and friends to help in concrete ways, such as talking their friends about your upcoming job search in the hopes of connections, or practicing new job seeking skills, or a ride to an interview or to meet with a vocational counselor.
If it has been a long time since you’ve worked, you may want to get support from family, friends, and professional supporters to help you “organize a variety of work experiences to help the individual figure out what his/her preferences might be.” (Farkas)